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Women History Month: Adult Over-Comer Speaks Out On Incest, Rape and Molestation
Is there joy and fulfillment after sexual abuse through rape and incest? Adult over-comer Blondie L. Clayton shares her secrets of not just surviving but thriving. In Celebration of Women’s History Month Clayton speaks out with a message of hope for others.
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March 6, 2008 (FPRC) -- Every year thousands of children are sexually abused and may end up taken from their homes, or left there to fiend for themselves. Either way they have to decide whether they will rise above it or allow it to take them on a path of no return. Juvenile Detention Centers are full of the fallout from those who give in to the negative past.
Blondie L. Clayton could have been one of those kids. Separated from her parents at 7 and shifted around from family member to family member, Clayton was reunited with her mother at 13 after she had been the victim of incest, molested and raped by a teacher and family friend, up until age 12.
“I remember wanting to tell my mother what had happened. I finally got up enough confidence after we were with her a couple of months. Somehow her response left a hole in my heart. I was expecting more. All she kept saying was, ‘it’s over now. You’re going to be all right, says Clayton.
According to Clayton when she realized that she could not look to even her mother for protection, she made a decision to take control of the things she could and to shut the door on what she couldn’t. She began to focus less on what had happened and began to look at what she could do with the rest of her life
Clayton re-focused and turned her attention to the high school twirler team, seeing an opportunity to continue to feed her desire to excel, she decided to try something completely different. To make the team you had to create a routine and successfully carry it out at tryouts, to which Clayton successfully tried out and made the team.
Goal setting and achievement boosted Clayton’s confidence and ignited a passion for greater personal development, leading her to the discovery of “how to” and self-help books.
As Clayton puts it, “I didn’t have to go to adults whom I didn’t trust but I could read books to help me to overcome what I wanted to change, improve, or add to my life.”
When asked about books that made the most impact on her young life, Clayton responded, “The Diary of Anne Frank. I saw something in her story that I could relate my life situation to and she was adapting in spite of where she was. That gave me hope.”
The key to re-creating one’s life after sexual abuse, according to Clayton: face up to your situation; take control of the things you can; set short range goals; read personal development books; acknowledge that there is a higher power, that you are powerless to undo what has happened, and enjoy the journey.
Today Clayton enjoys writing, coaching writers into published authors and teaching others how to re-create their lives. Clayton is particularly thankful for having achieved a balanced life, which includes a reconnection to the Spirit.
To arrange for an interview, contact Blondie at blondie48@bellsouth.net, or 321-637-1128. If you would like to read more visit www.realstoriesrealpeople.blogspot.com.
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Send an email to Frank Clayton of Changing Lives Publishing
321-637-1128
Keywords:
Abuse, sexual abuse, molestation
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